I had a mama-to-be come in to see me last week and she asked me if I had any advice for the first few months after baby is born.
“Just try to survive the first 3 months”, I told her honestly.
Remembering the first three months after Rose was born was difficult. It was a complete blur!
My husband and I found ourselves managing on a day-to-day basis and our relationship took a toll, to say the least.
That is until about 4 months post-birth when I found myself missing him and trying to come up with different, unconventional ways to re-connect. Our new responsibilities were crowding out everything that seemed important before baby.
One day we found ourselves on the living room floor playing cards (our internet was down and our Netflix was out of commission), enjoying each other’s company in a way we hadn’t since becoming parents.
Trust me, I get it.
It’s easy to fall into a routine, the hum-drum of life takes over and we forget to nurture the relationship we have with our partners especially when kids enter our world.
For this very reason, I’ve thought up some easy and fun ways to re-connect with your partner.
- Learn something new together
To keep things interesting, try learning a new skill or hobby or playing a new sport with your honey. Things like taking a wine-tasting course, or a cooking-class, learning a new language or even trying out a new sport such as tennis or squash or my favourite thing to do – going for an easy casual bike ride around our ‘hood!
- Day dates
Perhaps an evening date may not be in the cards for you two, but meeting for quick coffee or lunch during the day can easily fit into your schedules. Take a longer lunch break and meet your partner downtown for bite or even schedule an afternoon off to hang out and get a couples massage.
- Games night
Board or card games aren’t just for your kids. Challenge your sweetie to a game of cards, Monopoly, Scrabble or Trivial Pursuit to lighten the mood and reconnect.
- Get in love!
Remember how it felt when your partner gave you flowers for no reason? Or that time you were wearing something sexy and the look on their face? Every relationship needs a kick start of romance post-baby. Try things like writing a sweet note, or buying a nice bottle of wine.
Rekindling a connection to your partner is crucial to any couple’s relationship and can easily fall by the wayside after baby is born.
Start with small gestures and easy, fun things to do with one another and your relationship will be back on track in no time!