Congratulations…you’re officially a Parent! That’s Parent with a capital “P”!
Because being a Parent is awesome…..but also being a Parent is hard as hell.
You welcomed this precious little baby into the world and oh man, it was cute as a button, smelled so dang good and was itty bitty teeny tiny! You thought to yourself, I got this!
And you do “have this!”
But also, more often than not, you don’t. Parenting is tough shit.
I wish someone had taken me aside and told me some of the hard truths of my new role as a Parent.
Parenting is a journey and sure, you may have felt prepared at first, but chances are there will be something that throws you off your game and you’re left with a jaw dropped “WTF?!?”.
Yep. That’s being a Parent.
But here are three nuggets of advice I want NEED to share with you, my fellow Parent:
1. Lower Your Expectations
Don’t expect a lot from yourself OR your partner for that matter.
That’s because most days taking a shower will be a huge accomplishment…and it is.
You’re in survival mode for the first few (read: several) months. Also, all of things you expected your partner to do or the things they had done before are NOT fair game anymore.
But hey, as a bonus, if you don’t expect a lot and then stuff does get done it’s like Christmas morning!
2. You’re not the same person you were before kids
You will never be the same person you were before kids. Let that person go. Because the truth is, you just can’t be the same. You’ve got a tiny person that needs you for everything and you’re priorities will be different. That’s the other thing, your relationship will not be the same either (more on that in another post!).
The problem starts when new Parents try their hardest to be their “before kids” selves. It’s not possible, friend. And the more you try to be your BK (Before Kids) self – the harder life will be. Embrace your AK (After Kids) self for all that it is – compassionate, empathetic, nurturing, responsible, protective, and loving!
You are one hell of a person – and I promise you’ll love the new (Parental) you!
3. You will never be prepared. ever.
Your diaper bag could be the most organized, most well stocked baby bag on earth, there could be a Wal-Mart in that bag….chances are your baby will need the one thing you didn’t pack.
Yup. That’s the world of these magical, unpredictable AF babies.
You’re going to forget things. You’re going to screw up. And you’re going to be “that Parent” at some point. We are ALL “that Parent” at one time or another.
I’ve yet to meet a Parent who’s got it all together, all the time. Even us “experts” are just making it up as we go along.
But you’re also going to learn a ton and you WILL figure it out.
It’s a steep learning curve and you learn new things every day for the rest of that baby’s life. It’s life long, it never ends and it’s the best ever!
So listen, I’m not an expert in all things babies by any means. But the above three nuggets are things I’ve learned on my own the past 3.5 years and things I wish someone, anyone, had told me. So I’m sharing them with you.
But in the end, this shit doesn’t matter. What matters is the smile on your baby’s face when they first really see you, or the laughter or joy they get from just hanging out with you!
That’s the good stuff that makes the other stuff totally worth it!
Being a Parent is the most important job in the world and you just landed the gig!